Posts Tagged transsexual

Dr Radfem – are transwomen men poll.

This was the stats shortly after I voted. Looks like her plan has backfired in a big way.

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My rules for dating apps

While I’m lay here trying to get to sleep before I start my new job in the morning, I was swiping left and right in a dating app I’m a member off.

She looks nice, she looks nice, not keen on her, she lives too far away, she’s never that age!

I’ve learnt to have some simple rules on clicking the like or dislike button. If you’re in a similar situation, I’d recommend making a few of your own too, but here’s mine in no particular order.

1. They have to have more than 1 photo of them.

2. They should live within a reasonable distance of me.

3. I have to find something attractive in them, be it looks, personality, sense of humour etc.

4. They should say something about themselves in their profile, and not just leave it blank.

You might think I’m being awkward or picky, and maybe I am, but I’ve learnt the hard way that you can’t always trust what you see online. I’d been chatting with a woman on an app for a few weeks getting to know each other, when it came to swapping telephone numbers. A few minutes later I received a call from a number I recognised as hers and with my heart in my mouth, picked up the phone to answer and said hello.

The voice at the other end of the line wasn’t what I was expecting. It was a mans voice. Now I’ve been mistaken for a man on the phone before, even this week when phoning the police (someone had crashed into the side of the car I’d just bought and drove off), so I let the conversation continue. There was a short conversation (I can’t remember the exact words now), I think I said “you’re a man” if I said anything, but I hung up. The phone rang again, I think I picked up and he started to demand I pay him £50 a week or he’d out me (I’d already told “her” I was trans before the phone call). I told him I didn’t have any money to give him hoping he’d give up, but he said, ok, I’ll fuck you then, to which I replied “oh you can fuck right off!”

I was shaking. I didn’t know what to think at the time, but after a few minutes I rang the police and told them everything that had gone on, and they made an appointment to see me later that night.

I filled out a statement, the policeman said I’d have to give any previous names which I felt really uncomfortable about, and he said he’d look into it. I’d printed off screenshots of the profile in question and our conversations.

A few days later, they’d tracked him down, had a talk with him, which he claimed was just “a bit of a joke / laugh”. He begged the police not to tell his girlfriend or his work as he worked with kids or vulnerable adults I think and it would ruin his career. He wrote me a letter of apology, but I’m still thinking that was just to avoid any trouble. I let the police decide how to continue, and they were happy giving him a telling off and leaving it at that, but the police did say he only lived a stones throw away from me, which did make me give every man I saw in the area a second look and a wide birth for quite a while afterwards.

I confided in a good friend at the time about it and he was just shocked and wanting to know more. I’ve been thinking of how and whether I should blog about this ever since, and nows as good a time as ever before I completely disappears from my memory.

So, take my advice, be careful, if it looks to good to be true, it probably is, stay safe.

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When you’re a trans woman…

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Shocking video shows lesbian unable to prove gender being FORCIBLY REMOVED from women’s bathroom

Shocking video shows lesbian unable to prove gender being FORCIBLY REMOVED from women’s bathroom

Anyone with half a brain (so that rules out Republican politicians) could see that this is what would happen under these so called bathroom laws.  One commentator on the Pink News article said that if you’re a girl and you dress like a man then you should expect this.  Bull Shit!  She’s a teenager for fucks sake!  You should think yourself lucky that her response was audible and not just a grunt.

I also think the voice of the person presumably holding the camera sounds like someone O know.  Is that you Cathy Brennan?

What we see of this video is the girl being asked to leave as she didn’t have id, but we don’t see what lead upto the police arriving to question her.  Did someone call the toilet police, was someone causing trouble, we’re the police already there.  Hopefully more facts about this will come out in time.

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North Carolina & The Bathroom Bill: Transgender Discrimination

North Carolina & The Bathroom Bill: Transgender Discrimination

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An analysis of gender, transgender, feminism and gender critical feminists part 1

Ok, there’s not going to be a lot of analysis here for very simple reasons I will try to explain.  We all have different understandings of the above, and we all use different language with regards to it too, so, I am reaching out to Gender Critical Radical Feminists aka Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminsts in an effort to try to understand and possibly address (if I can) they’re issues / concerns regarding the above.  I want to do this as a video blog, as its sometimes a lot easier to actually say what you want than type it, and let’s face it, the WordPress interface isn’t the quickest / easiest to use.  So, regardless of your views on the above subject, please ask your questions in the comments section, and when there’s enough questions, I’ll film a response to upload somewhere.  Please use respectful language (as I have tried above) when addressing others. If you can’t use the words to refer to people how you think they’d prefer, please don’t use the words you know they won’t like.

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Transgender woman Vicky Thompson found dead at Armley jail

Transgender woman Vicky Thompson found dead at Armley jail

How many more is it going to take before the government will make the right changes?  This was only reported 2 hours ago on the 19th November yet she was found on the 13th.  I know there was the Paris terrorist attacks and Children in Need on Friday, but a week for this to be reported?

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Germaine Greer again

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Why is The Mirror wasting it’s money paying Journalists who don’t do the proper research?0

The Mirror a “newspaper” apparently, ran a story this morning asking why the NHS is “wasting” money on treating transgender kids, and asked it’s readers to vote on whether the NHS should be spending this money.  At the time of writing this 4.42pm 9th April, the votes for yes we’re 67% yes against 33% no, and that’s pretty clear cut that most of the people who voted believe the NHS should be treating these kids.

So why do I accuse the journalist in this case of bad research?  Well, she says that this money is wasted on this service and compares it to other services she views as a waste of money ie fat people getting gastric bands to help them lose weight so they don’t get diabetes as they’re apparently too lazy to exercise and too greedy to stop shoveling food down their throat – I’m overweight, have been as long as I can remember, I’m also diabetic and know that one can lead to the other and if someone is diabetic and it hasn’t been diagnosed / controlled for whatever reason, they can be overweight with type 2, and underweight with type 1.  I’m still overweight, but since being diagnosed and treated, my weight has come down to a more manageable healthy level.  As for women with small boobs, that can affect your mental well being.  I don’t think that Josie Cunningham should have been given NHS treatment for bigger boobs just so she could be a glamour model though, if she needed them for that kind of job, she should have paid for them and claimed them as an expense (mind, just do a google search on here if you don’t know who she is, she’s the woman that was going to have an abortion just so she could go into the Celebrity Big Brother house – I’m pro-choice, but it has to be a good valid reason right?)

If these kids really are trans, then they’ll probably carry on in the system to some degree.  If they’re not, then they’re going to get the help to discover why they feel the way they do.  Ignoring the situation is only going to store up trouble for later on in life.  Dealing with it now in a sensible way is best for everyone.

To put it another way.  In the UK, the legal drinking age is 18, so until then it’s kinda a forbidden thing, and forbidden things are always more exciting, so we drink before the age of 18 down the park drinking 3 litre bottles of cidre with your mates after school and then legally binging in pubs on a weekend getting pist and causing all kinds of trouble.  In countries like France and Spain, wine is served with most meals, it’s a cultural thing yes, but it makes it no big thing, so no binging as an adult.

I wish I could have spoken to someone, anyone when I was growing up as a kid.  I spent over 15 years alone, scared, worried what people would think.  Whether I would have transitioned at that age or not I don’t know, it’s was the mid 1980’s so highly doubtful that I would have, but to have been able to discuss my feelings and try to work out the whys would have been an amazing help.  Instead I was limited to shows on TV, newspaper articles which we’re badly done and shaming.

We all want a better life for the next generation, so please don’t repeat the mistakes of the past.

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I need to poo poo something.

In my house, I have 1 bathroom.  It has a bath with shower, a toilet and a sink.  When I need to have a bath, I fill the bath with water and have a bath.  When I need a shower, I pull the curtain across the rail and have a shower.  When I need to wash my hands or brush my teeth, I wash my hands or brush my teeth, and when I need to pee or poo, I pee or poo.

When I’m away from home and I need to do any of the above, I do any of the above in a very similar if not identical way, and I suspect that most other people do the same.  What I don’t do when I’m away from home, is assault someone when I go into toilets or changing rooms that are shared with other people.  If I we’re to do that, I would be breaking the law, and should be punished to the full extent of the law.  Laws like the ones being proposed in the USA in the below article, wouldn’t be a get out of jail card, as if I assaulted someone, I’d have still assaulted someone and broken the law.  If I we’re to break the law and assault someone, does anyone really think I wouldn’t worry about breaking another law?  “Oh, I can’t go in those toilets to assault someone and break the law, because I’d be breaking the law if I went into those toilets”.  You see how stupid that sounds?

As a transwoman, I’ve more chance of being assaulted, whichever toilets I use, so at least grant me the dignity or respect or whatever the hell the right word is, and just let me go friggin’ pee or poo before I pee or poo myself, that’s all I ask.

Statistics Show Exactly How Many Times Trans People Have Attacked You in Bathrooms

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