Our daughter in college just announced her/hir intent to start taking Testosterone. What should we do?

Because GM won’t publish the sensible replies from me, here’s what I posted in reply.

My advice to the parents would be to love your child regardless, my advice to their child would be research, research, research. If you head down the path of transition, make very sure ths it’s the right path for you. If you’re not 100% certain then don’t do anything, research more to find who you are. As someone who is trans, it’s not something I’d wish on anyone, it’s a lonely road full of hazards along the way, and very little option to turn away from if its the wrong road for you.



Request for advice and guidance from a concerned parent:

Our almost 21 year child just announced yesterday her/hir intent to start taking T and said that she was considering top surgery eventually as well but “that’s all”. Ze has been wearing men’s clothes for a couple of years now, hates having a period, and appears very butch. Seems most interested in/connected with other butch/lesbian individuals. We have tried to understand and have asked if hir intent is to transition to a male, but she claims not; stating that she’s just tired of being seen as a female, despite the butch clothes etc but does not want to be a “full male”..more like androgynous or “non-binary”.

It’s a long story, like many, but it started when she went to college and found her “place/home” in the LGBTQ community, and then changed her major to “Gender & Women’s Studies”. We are so…

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  1. #1 by oopster74 on April 26, 2015 - 11:30 am

    I’ve tried adding my comments on gender trendier on the, but Gallus Mag won’t publish comments from me anymore, claiming I’m harassing someone by have the audacity to comment on her blog! Ooh! Lock me up and throw away the key now.

  2. #2 by oopster74 on April 26, 2015 - 11:33 am

    A lot of the comments in gender trender about this are criticising trans people’s encouragement to transition, saying they’re cult-like, while they criticise transitioning I’m a cult-like manner.

    Sue, if you get to read this, love and support your child, that is the best you can do. It’s their life to lead and they have to be able to make their own choices and possibly their own mistakes too. All you can do is be there to help pick up the pieces of things come to that.

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