Archive for April, 2015
Our daughter in college just announced her/hir intent to start taking Testosterone. What should we do?
Because GM won’t publish the sensible replies from me, here’s what I posted in reply.
My advice to the parents would be to love your child regardless, my advice to their child would be research, research, research. If you head down the path of transition, make very sure ths it’s the right path for you. If you’re not 100% certain then don’t do anything, research more to find who you are. As someone who is trans, it’s not something I’d wish on anyone, it’s a lonely road full of hazards along the way, and very little option to turn away from if its the wrong road for you.
Request for advice and guidance from a concerned parent:
Our almost 21 year child just announced yesterday her/hir intent to start taking T and said that she was considering top surgery eventually as well but “that’s all”. Ze has been wearing men’s clothes for a couple of years now, hates having a period, and appears very butch. Seems most interested in/connected with other butch/lesbian individuals. We have tried to understand and have asked if hir intent is to transition to a male, but she claims not; stating that she’s just tired of being seen as a female, despite the butch clothes etc but does not want to be a “full male”..more like androgynous or “non-binary”.
It’s a long story, like many, but it started when she went to college and found her “place/home” in the LGBTQ community, and then changed her major to “Gender & Women’s Studies”. We are so…
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I’m of 2 minds on this. On the one hand I’m happy that an event that I and many others view as trans-excluding will end this year, and sad for those that did attend or plan to attend in the future. I don’t think Lisa has given in to her critics on this, and from what I know of the festival I’m stunned and amazed that just one person organises the whole thing. If you want to keep Michfest (or whatever it may become), then surely new blood needs to come through the ranks to do that, but it shouldn’t all be heaped into the shoulders of one person, regardless of how that person may perform in that position.
I’m also a little happy, that Lisa hasn’t give-in to get critics, which I know seems odd as I’d be in that list. It shows that however wrong others thinks she may be, she’s stuck to her principles, and there’s not many people in the world left that do that.
Lisa Vogel, the creator and visionary behind the Michigan Womyn’s Music Festival announced today that the legendary multi-generational women’s encampment and music festival will end this year.
After four decades of overcoming every sort of challenge imaginable in order to create the miracle that is Michfest, Vogel posted the following announcement an hour ago on the festival’s Facebook page:
Dear Sisters, Amazon, Festival family,
It has been my honor and privilege to produce the Michigan Womyn’s Music Festival for 40 years. It has been my life’s work, my deepest commitment, my constant challenge and my most profound joy. Every single thing of value I have learned in the world I have learned in the process of being part of building this beloved community. Almost every friend and family member who I cherish I have met on that hallowed ground, and every single way I have learned to put my…
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Well as the title says, I’ve not been blogging much recently from my blog cabin, and that’s because I’m in gainful employment again! Yay for me! Last week I was down in Cheltenham for the induction week and met 7 others doing the same course. Most were going from client to client and only me and 1 other person were there as what’s called “live in care”. Now if you don’t know what is, it basically means I live in the person’s house that I’ll be caring for as for whatever reason, they need 24/7 care or supervision, their needs vary from simply needing a companion (no, not in a seedy way), to someone to help them wash, get dressed, make meals, shopping and anything else that most of us can do unassisted.
The last lady that I lived with earlier in the year sadly died when the next carer took over. I don’t think it was expected as she was making arrangements to vote in the coming elections by post. This affected me more than I thought it would last Wednesday when the company I’d worked for told me. She was old, had some dementia, and was a really nice lady.
I’m currently living with a couple and caring for a nice lady that was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s about 5 years ago. Now for professional and confidential reasons, that’s the limit of what I can say, but this condition is a truly cruel one in my opinion. The pes on with the condition may or may not be aware of it, but the family and friends around them are, and I’m not sure who that’s harder on.
What I’ve been taught about dementia and read, I know is almost to patronise or humour them. Don’t say no, what makes sense to you may not make sense to them, but what makes sense to them makes perfect sense to them, and I feel bad that I’m seemingly doing this, even if it’s with the best of intentions. I guess it’s similar to what my ex neighbour who drove the big police cars up and down the motorway said about driving – “act as though everyone else on the roads are idiots, and you’re the only sane one on the road”, and that would seem to make some sense here.
I can’t get my head around the exact legal terminology, and the laws in this instance would seem to differ from the ones I’m more knowledgeable about in the UK, but either this girl was raped or was willing (I can’t find definitive reference in the piece so I’m not going to speculate). I can’t see in the piece either if she had an abortion or some other way of ending the pregnancy, so I’m just going to say this, whether she was raped or she consented to having sex with I’m going to presume, a boy of a similar age, she end the pregnancy. The fact that we have this situation in the first place is a sad indictment of society. No one shouldn’t be judged for having underage sex, but kids shouldn’t be pressured into sexual relations either. There should have been someone she could talk to, but better still, this situation is one that could have been avoided if certain people put the people of the world first, and not their election campaigns. Kids need suitable education about the world around them at the relevant times and age groups, and not to just be told they can’t do something, as that instantly will make it exciting and something they want to do.
Fla. Stat. § 794.03. Unlawful to publish or broadcast information identifying sexual offense victim (“rape shield law”)
No person shall print, publish, or broadcast, or cause or allow to be printed, published, or broadcast, in any instrument of mass communication the name, address, or other identifying fact or information of the victim of any sexual offense within this chapter, except as provided in s. 119.071(2)(h)or unless the court determines that such information is no longer confidential and exempt pursuant to s. 92.56. An offense under this section shall constitute a misdemeanor of the second degree, punishable as provided in s. 775.082 or s. 775.083.
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