Firstly (and remove this bit if you want as it’s not relevant to this post) apologies for my part in our recent argument.
Cis privellege is a real thing, whether you are actively doing anything about it or not. Both you and me experience the negative effects of male privellege, but can we honestly say that every male is actively exerting that privellege making things bad for us? I’ve seen lists of the relevant privelleges (for the common ones we all know about), and I’ve thought “oh yeah, that makes sense, I never realised till just”, but for the life of me can’t think if ANY right now (it’s probably too early for my brain to be fully functional right now anyway lol).
To sum it up, it’s not as simple as your explanation, I’d say that is right, but, there are other additional reasons too why some have privellege over others.
Privilege and why there is no such thing as “cis” privilege.