My rules for dating apps

While I’m lay here trying to get to sleep before I start my new job in the morning, I was swiping left and right in a dating app I’m a member off.

She looks nice, she looks nice, not keen on her, she lives too far away, she’s never that age!

I’ve learnt to have some simple rules on clicking the like or dislike button. If you’re in a similar situation, I’d recommend making a few of your own too, but here’s mine in no particular order.

1. They have to have more than 1 photo of them.

2. They should live within a reasonable distance of me.

3. I have to find something attractive in them, be it looks, personality, sense of humour etc.

4. They should say something about themselves in their profile, and not just leave it blank.

You might think I’m being awkward or picky, and maybe I am, but I’ve learnt the hard way that you can’t always trust what you see online. I’d been chatting with a woman on an app for a few weeks getting to know each other, when it came to swapping telephone numbers. A few minutes later I received a call from a number I recognised as hers and with my heart in my mouth, picked up the phone to answer and said hello.

The voice at the other end of the line wasn’t what I was expecting. It was a mans voice. Now I’ve been mistaken for a man on the phone before, even this week when phoning the police (someone had crashed into the side of the car I’d just bought and drove off), so I let the conversation continue. There was a short conversation (I can’t remember the exact words now), I think I said “you’re a man” if I said anything, but I hung up. The phone rang again, I think I picked up and he started to demand I pay him £50 a week or he’d out me (I’d already told “her” I was trans before the phone call). I told him I didn’t have any money to give him hoping he’d give up, but he said, ok, I’ll fuck you then, to which I replied “oh you can fuck right off!”

I was shaking. I didn’t know what to think at the time, but after a few minutes I rang the police and told them everything that had gone on, and they made an appointment to see me later that night.

I filled out a statement, the policeman said I’d have to give any previous names which I felt really uncomfortable about, and he said he’d look into it. I’d printed off screenshots of the profile in question and our conversations.

A few days later, they’d tracked him down, had a talk with him, which he claimed was just “a bit of a joke / laugh”. He begged the police not to tell his girlfriend or his work as he worked with kids or vulnerable adults I think and it would ruin his career. He wrote me a letter of apology, but I’m still thinking that was just to avoid any trouble. I let the police decide how to continue, and they were happy giving him a telling off and leaving it at that, but the police did say he only lived a stones throw away from me, which did make me give every man I saw in the area a second look and a wide birth for quite a while afterwards.

I confided in a good friend at the time about it and he was just shocked and wanting to know more. I’ve been thinking of how and whether I should blog about this ever since, and nows as good a time as ever before I completely disappears from my memory.

So, take my advice, be careful, if it looks to good to be true, it probably is, stay safe.

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LGBT Labour (U.K.) @lgbtlabour

I’m just sat here waiting on all the Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminists to condemn her actions of threatening violence. I think I might have a long wait as I hear it’s quite warm in hell.

Gender Identity Watch

LGBT Labour, “The Labour Campaign for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Trans* Rights … affiliated to the Labour Party,” released a statement on November 13 claiming Linda Bellos, “who we believe to be a member of the Labour Party” was “inciting violence upon trans members and the wider trans community” in a speech she gave on November 8 at a talk called, “Let’s Talk About the GRA.” LGBT Labour demands the Labour Party “launch an investigation” since “her comments do not make the Labour Party a space for our trans members to feel safe.” Safety, in this context, appears to refer to the absence of women who disagree with trans activists’ views on the Gender Recognition Act.

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A Transgender Woman Was Raped And Set On Fire, LGBT Community Is Demanding Justice

A Transgender Woman Was Raped And Set On Fire, LGBT Community Is Demanding Justice

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Michelle (Miguel) Martinez (USA)

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Michelle (Miguel) Martinez is a man who identifies as a transgender woman. On October 19, he was convicted of sexually assaulting a 10-year-old girl inside a bathroom. Martinez, who was a family friend, invited the girl into the bathroom where he proceeded to “touch[] her breasts and genitalia before penetrating her.” The girl immediately told her mother, who immediately reported the assault to the Casper, WY police. When questioned, Martinez told the police the girl was “talking crap” and called the accusations “a publicity stunt.” In court, he pleaded “not guilty” to the charges.

Martinez was found guilty of first- and second-degree abuse of a minor, and may face up to 70 years in prison.

Transgender Wyoming woman convicted of sexually assaulting 10-year-old girl in bathroom — Fox News, Oct. 19, 2017

Trial begins for Casper resident charged with sexually assaulting 10-year-old girl — Billings Gazette, Oct. 16, 2017

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Transgender “Hate Crime” Victim ‘Dakota Kern’ Exposed

Let’s see, 2 immature idiots get into a fight with each other, punches and insults thrown at both from both sides. The first attack is one on one, the second is multiple people attaching one person. Neither situation can be justified.

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Photo from SandraRose.com

Seems there’s more to the story about the “transgender teen” allegedly assaulted in an anti-transgender bias attack at an Arizona pool party. Turns out the “victim”, white male legal adult (18 years old) Dakota Kern had posted a Facebook video three days prior which showed him beating up a teenage black girl and dragging her around by her hair – apparently in retaliation for calling him “dude”.

Sandra Rose has the receipts:

“A gender confused teenager was attacked by a group of people at a Phoenix, Arizona pool party after he uploaded a video of himself beating a young black girl for calling him a “dude.”

Police say a group of about 20 people attacked 18-year-old Dakota Kern at a pool party on August 16 — about a week after he uploaded the video to his Facebook page.

Kern, who is white, is seen dragging a young…

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Growing Pains: Problems with Puberty Suppression in Treating Gender Dysphoria (USA)

It’s a difficult one for sure, but there are lots of treatments that are experimental. As long as the treatment is carried out in a proper manner and monitored, then things should be fine, but no one can analyse any data till there is any. When I took my first hrt pill on June 5th 1999, it felt good. I know that that one pill on its own won’t have changed anything per se, but it was a positive step in the right direction for me which made me feel positive for the future. These are kids taking these hormone blockers, so the monitoring will be high, as no health authority would want to risk bad publicity (that’s maybe the wrong word or meaning) that would result from any harm coming to children, at least that’s how I see it from the point of view of the NHS in England etc

Gender Identity Watch

In a recently published paper in The New Atlantis titled “Growing Pains: Problems with Puberty Suppression in Treating Gender Dysphoria,” authors Paul W. Hruz, Lawrence S. Mayer, and Paul R. McHugh argue that “the evidence for the safety and efficacy of puberty suppression is thin, based more on the subjective judgments of clinicians than on rigorous empirical evidence. It is, in this sense, still experimental — yet it is an experiment being conducted in an uncontrolled and unsystematic manner.”

According to the authors, “The claim that puberty-blocking treatments are fully reversible makes them appear less drastic, but this claim is not supported by scientific evidence. It remains unknown whether or not ordinary sex-typical puberty will resume following the suppression of puberty in patients with gender dysphoria. It is also unclear whether children would be able to develop normal reproductive functions if they were to withdraw from puberty suppression. It likewise remains unclear…

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H.B. 2796 (USA)

Good luck getting everyone genetically tested.

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On June 12, H.B. 2796, the Civil Rights Uniformity Act of 2017, was referred to the Subcommittee on the Constitution and Civil Justice.

“This bill prohibits the word “sex” or “gender” from being interpreted to mean “gender identity,” and requires “man” or “woman” to be interpreted to refer exclusively to a person’s genetic sex, for purposes determining the meaning of federal civil rights laws or related federal administrative agency regulations or guidance. No federal civil rights law shall be interpreted to treat gender identity or transgender status as a protected class, unless it expressly designates “gender identity” or “transgender status” as a protected class.”

H.B. 2796 — Civil Rights Uniformity Act of 2017

H.B. 2796 — LegiScan

H.B. 2796 — Gender Identity Watch

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